Comments on: Someday Syndrome & the System of I-Can’ts http://matadorlife.com/someday-syndrome-the-system-of-i-can%e2%80%99ts/ Thrive Between Trips Thu, 09 Sep 2010 13:28:58 +0000 http://wordpress.org/?v=2.9.2 hourly 1 By: Jess A http://matadorlife.com/someday-syndrome-the-system-of-i-can%e2%80%99ts/comment-page-1/#comment-6457 Jess A Tue, 24 Aug 2010 04:09:17 +0000 http://matadorlife.com/?p=4276#comment-6457 Such a good parenting philosophy that my mom used with me. What's funny is, she babied and pampered my brother his entire life (and he's 33 now) and he still needs lots of prodding to do anything! She employed the "no I-can'ts or it's-too-hards" with me (I'm 14 years younger) because I think she was tired of the incessant whining. So here I am at 19, doing much more than I ever thought I could! And I do have my mom to thank for it. Such a good parenting philosophy that my mom used with me. What’s funny is, she babied and pampered my brother his entire life (and he’s 33 now) and he still needs lots of prodding to do anything! She employed the “no I-can’ts or it’s-too-hards” with me (I’m 14 years younger) because I think she was tired of the incessant whining. So here I am at 19, doing much more than I ever thought I could! And I do have my mom to thank for it.

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]]> By: EvaSandoval http://matadorlife.com/someday-syndrome-the-system-of-i-can%e2%80%99ts/comment-page-1/#comment-6392 EvaSandoval Wed, 18 Aug 2010 09:33:37 +0000 http://matadorlife.com/?p=4276#comment-6392 Just found this piece today... I thought it was terrific, especially the example of your daughter trying to cross the rough terrain. Fear, disinterest, inertia. Absolutely correct... but so many people refuse to own up. It's much easier to say "I can't" when it's too difficult, and "I hate you" to people who've done what you think you cannot. Just found this piece today… I thought it was terrific, especially the example of your daughter trying to cross the rough terrain. Fear, disinterest, inertia. Absolutely correct… but so many people refuse to own up. It’s much easier to say “I can’t” when it’s too difficult, and “I hate you” to people who’ve done what you think you cannot.

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]]> By: cna training http://matadorlife.com/someday-syndrome-the-system-of-i-can%e2%80%99ts/comment-page-1/#comment-5720 cna training Thu, 17 Jun 2010 08:14:19 +0000 http://matadorlife.com/?p=4276#comment-5720 nice post. thanks. nice post. thanks.

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]]> By: Greg Kruse http://matadorlife.com/someday-syndrome-the-system-of-i-can%e2%80%99ts/comment-page-1/#comment-5614 Greg Kruse Tue, 08 Jun 2010 08:39:01 +0000 http://matadorlife.com/?p=4276#comment-5614 Its good to have a few rules. Not too many, but a few. And that goes for everybody, not just kids! But I really decided to comment because I thought you might find this amusing: When diving in Bonaire, I bought a T-shirt that I like very much. Its pale blue and has a sailboat rushing across a white-capped sea under scudding clouds. Below this image it says: Monday Tuesday Wednesday Thursday Friday Saturday Sunday See? . . . There is no someday. It's amazing how often I think of this little witticism. And how often it helps me make decisions in life! Its good to have a few rules. Not too many, but a few. And that goes for everybody, not just kids!

But I really decided to comment because I thought you might find this amusing:

When diving in Bonaire, I bought a T-shirt that I like very much. Its pale blue and has a sailboat rushing across a white-capped sea under scudding clouds. Below this image it says:

Monday
Tuesday
Wednesday
Thursday
Friday
Saturday
Sunday

See? . . . There is no someday.

It’s amazing how often I think of this little witticism. And how often it helps me make decisions in life!

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]]> By: Leigh Shulman http://matadorlife.com/someday-syndrome-the-system-of-i-can%e2%80%99ts/comment-page-1/#comment-4634 Leigh Shulman Fri, 02 Apr 2010 12:29:03 +0000 http://matadorlife.com/?p=4276#comment-4634 Thanks for the comment, Alex. You bring up a good point. Too often, we find ourselves telling others "we can't" because it's difficult to say no. I-can't is an easy out. It allows us to escape responsibility for our own desires and needs. Which is all well and good short term, but ultimately, we need to own our choices. Thanks for the comment, Alex.

You bring up a good point. Too often, we find ourselves telling others “we can’t” because it’s difficult to say no. I-can’t is an easy out. It allows us to escape responsibility for our own desires and needs. Which is all well and good short term, but ultimately, we need to own our choices.

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]]> By: Leigh Shulman http://matadorlife.com/someday-syndrome-the-system-of-i-can%e2%80%99ts/comment-page-1/#comment-4632 Leigh Shulman Fri, 02 Apr 2010 12:15:49 +0000 http://matadorlife.com/?p=4276#comment-4632 If you do, I'm curious to hear what they say. Congrats on your big changes. One thing I can say without a moment's hesitation. I never once regretted picking up everything to travel with my family. Yes, there are things I miss and there have been challenges, but overall, when I think of the places I've been, people I've met and experiences I've had, I know I made the right choice. If you do, I’m curious to hear what they say.

Congrats on your big changes.

One thing I can say without a moment’s hesitation. I never once regretted picking up everything to travel with my family. Yes, there are things I miss and there have been challenges, but overall, when I think of the places I’ve been, people I’ve met and experiences I’ve had, I know I made the right choice.

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]]> By: Leigh Shulman http://matadorlife.com/someday-syndrome-the-system-of-i-can%e2%80%99ts/comment-page-1/#comment-4631 Leigh Shulman Fri, 02 Apr 2010 12:13:14 +0000 http://matadorlife.com/?p=4276#comment-4631 How absolutely true! It is amazing what you can accomplish when you think you have no other choice. I can think of so many examples. But as Christine says, often these choices come down to figuring it out for ourselves. We have to put ourselves in the position of no choice but try. How absolutely true! It is amazing what you can accomplish when you think you have no other choice.

I can think of so many examples. But as Christine says, often these choices come down to figuring it out for ourselves. We have to put ourselves in the position of no choice but try.

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]]> By: gé http://matadorlife.com/someday-syndrome-the-system-of-i-can%e2%80%99ts/comment-page-1/#comment-4628 gé Fri, 02 Apr 2010 03:45:00 +0000 http://matadorlife.com/?p=4276#comment-4628 Thanks for the article and the added comments, I will watch myself to see if I use too much of those "I can't"... Although I don't think I say it too much I realised that the more I grow "up" (not "old"!) they are happening more often... Already thinking about many ways to replace those nasty little words with more positive ones (especially that I have started rock climbing less than a year ago and there are a lot of those little "I can't" lurking around the corner haha) Speaking about rock climbing, I am sometimes impressed at the things I am able to do while I was thinking "I can't" just a minute before, and managed to pull out just because my friend who's belaying me tells me "wrong attitude!" and leaves me up there until I really try :-) Thanks for the article and the added comments, I will watch myself to see if I use too much of those “I can’t”…
Although I don’t think I say it too much I realised that the more I grow “up” (not “old”!) they are happening more often…
Already thinking about many ways to replace those nasty little words with more positive ones (especially that I have started rock climbing less than a year ago and there are a lot of those little “I can’t” lurking around the corner haha)

Speaking about rock climbing, I am sometimes impressed at the things I am able to do while I was thinking “I can’t” just a minute before, and managed to pull out just because my friend who’s belaying me tells me “wrong attitude!” and leaves me up there until I really try :-)

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]]> By: Alex Fayle ¡ Someday Syndrome http://matadorlife.com/someday-syndrome-the-system-of-i-can%e2%80%99ts/comment-page-1/#comment-4433 Alex Fayle ¡ Someday Syndrome Sat, 13 Mar 2010 09:08:43 +0000 http://matadorlife.com/?p=4276#comment-4433 Great article Leigh and a wonderful take on Someday Syndrome - I've never thought of it from the "I can't" perspective before but that's what I often said to myself as an excuse to not follow through on my writing dreams. Of course now I say "I can" to everything I want to do and rather than "I can't" to the things I choose not to do, I simply say "no". Have a great day! Great article Leigh and a wonderful take on Someday Syndrome – I’ve never thought of it from the “I can’t” perspective before but that’s what I often said to myself as an excuse to not follow through on my writing dreams.

Of course now I say “I can” to everything I want to do and rather than “I can’t” to the things I choose not to do, I simply say “no”.

Have a great day!

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]]> By: Missy http://matadorlife.com/someday-syndrome-the-system-of-i-can%e2%80%99ts/comment-page-1/#comment-4422 Missy Fri, 12 Mar 2010 03:16:32 +0000 http://matadorlife.com/?p=4276#comment-4422 I really enjoyed this article, and it's actually quite relevant for me. I just ended my "someday syndrome"-- I quit my job a few months ago to volunteer in Vietnam (where I am currently) and Israel, with a few months of random travel in between. Most of my family and friends thought I was crazy to quit my job and go wandering off for months on end, but I've always had a really strong desire to volunteer abroad and I knew I'd regret it down the road if I took other people's advice and just stayed put. So far I'm loving every minute of my adventure and so glad I didn't listen to everyone who said I "shouldn't" do this, or to "do it later, what's the rush?" Maybe I'll send this article to all of them to read! I really enjoyed this article, and it’s actually quite relevant for me. I just ended my “someday syndrome”– I quit my job a few months ago to volunteer in Vietnam (where I am currently) and Israel, with a few months of random travel in between.

Most of my family and friends thought I was crazy to quit my job and go wandering off for months on end, but I’ve always had a really strong desire to volunteer abroad and I knew I’d regret it down the road if I took other people’s advice and just stayed put. So far I’m loving every minute of my adventure and so glad I didn’t listen to everyone who said I “shouldn’t” do this, or to “do it later, what’s the rush?”

Maybe I’ll send this article to all of them to read!

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